May 11. She sent me a text message. "Ate Gi, Happy Birthday! I know we didn't part ways well. But I would like to say I'm sorry, if ever you're mad at me and if ever I wronged you. For me, you're still the godmother of my baby."
Really, if she didn't use her if-ever's and simply said, "I'm sorry for doing you wrong", I could've accepted the apology right there and then. So, I gave her a general reply to greeters: "Thank you for all your greetings, friends." I would have added the truth, that I would never, ever take it out on her innocent kid. But then, if I did, we would have to start being chummy again and I didn't want that. I didn't want to be "plastic" and act like all was well between us.
Somebody advised me to yes, just forgive her. But the truth was I did try. Last Holy Week. I told myself I would forgive those who hurt me. Yet, when it came to her, I couldn't. So this was what being betrayed feels like! So I told my adviser to give me time, that it's easier this way that I'm far from that someone so that in time, I could learn to forgive.
But right now, they would all have to wait until I do.
forgive and forget.
ReplyDeletea hard combo to do.
once you were able to do both, let me know.
i think i would need a lesson.
:-)
True. Takes time to do both.
ReplyDeleteI don't really think that anyone is able to forget, unless s/he gets amnesia. That's part of our memories. But I guess "forgive and forget" just means next time a problem arises, better not mention what was past.
ReplyDeleteBut anyway, the surprising thing, and what irks me now, is I am now not feeling a lot of hostility towards her. Sheesh!...Still, I am not completely over what she did and unless I hear that she's changed her ways for the better, the forgetting-part will take a long time.